I just figured out that Will and I are going to catch a shit because of the way we want to raise our child. We have been talking a lot and so far we have some up with the fact that we do not want our child raised in the church, we aren't going to lie about Santa Clause, and that we are taking more of a natural approach to parenting.
I was raised in the church and it was NEVER a bad experiance and I don't regret t. Maybe that is becsaue my parents never forced me to go and when I strated looking at otehr religions they supported me. But as I have grow up I have seen too many things happen within a church that are just not very Christ like. I feel like the church comminuty as a whole should all teach the same message and that just doesn't happen when people are power hungry, like all people are. So my child will not grow up in a church setting. That is not to say that if he or she asks to go to church I will not happily take them, I will. Or my parents will because they are activly involved in thier church. If he or she wants to go to a Budhist temply I will take them there too. I'm all about exploration and finding what is right for you.
The issue of Santa has always bugged me. First you threaten your kid that if he or she doesn't behave they won't get girts. Then you lie to them about who has given them their gifts. Then at a certain age you break theri hearts and tell them that, in fact, Santa isn't real. I think it's just a giant mess. Your kids should not have to be bribed to behave, you should teach them right and not use imaginary characters to entice them. Your kids should be greatful to you for spending time picking out the perfect gifts and caring enough to give it to them. And then I think it's just mean to lie to a kid and then the poor kid gets heart broken. Its not very nice. So there will be no Santa or Easter Bunny.
I don't think we will take much shit, aside for people not understanding, our more natural approach to parenting. We are going to use cloth diapers and wipes, practice baby carrying and possibly even have a family bed. We most likely won't let the baby watch TV until he or she is about 3. There is no substitution for interaction.
I just wanted to write about how we intend to raise our kid and how it might be differnt than the vast majority of people.